For my fellow high school students out there, you know that relationships at this point in life can be tough. There are a lot of things that go along with it: defining the relationship, defining boundaries, figuring out what you want, trying to find what you want, the inevitable breakups and rejections you’ll face… the list goes on.
But I don’t want you to be discouraged from dating. As someone who’s been in more than one serious relationship at this point, I’ll tell you I don’t regret them, even the ones that ended badly. That’s because they have all taught me important things that led me to who I am today. This is a time to define yourself, to learn and explore what your interests are, and who you’re interested in being with. I don’t want to waste time later in life figuring this out.
I also want to caution you on one thing – relationships, especially in a stressful point in your life like high school, should be constructive, not destructive. If it’s destructive, please don’t waste your time and energy on it. People often avoid relationships, or going out on a limb because they’re scared it’ll be destructive, or they’ll get hurt. But once you find that person who is constructive in every way, life becomes easier, not harder.
I can’t even begin to tell you how much my current relationship has helped me to deal with the stress and pressure of high school. Just knowing there’s someone else there for you, supporting you, who’s going through the same thing as you, that you can share that special bond with that only comes with a boyfriend/girlfriend… it’s so nice.
I lead a very stressful life. My relationship provides me with a refuge, a platform to rant, a place to confess my fears and my hopes and my dreams, and it gives me the feeling of being human. I tend to be robotic in nature sometimes – wanting to just go go go. He reminds me to slow down and enjoy the little things in humanity. I’m able to love humanity through my love for his smile, his laugh, his hugs, and his voice. It brings me a profound sense of groundedness and peace even in the midst of chaos. He’s always there for me, and he loves me unconditionally.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m an independent woman and I “don’t need no man”. But, I have to admit having such a functional, loving, supportive relationship is nice.
If you’re worried about balancing a relationship with everything else, know that if it’s the right person, you’ll find a way, and it will come naturally to integrate it successfully into your routine. A relationship is not another thing to tack on to your daily duties, it’s something that adds a richness to what’s already there.
These are just some humble thoughts on my experiences in relationships. Let me know if you have any relationship-related questions, I’d be happy to answer them to the best of my ability!